I was asked to write a guest blog post about why I believe in love and unfortunately, it ended up not being a great fit for what they were looking for, which is totally fine and understandable. However, this subject of love has been something I've been processing for a long, long time, particularly through the lens of a single woman in her 30's with a daughter and as an advocate for those who have seen and experienced the worst kind of lust (masked as love) on this planet. It was so helpful to get some of my thoughts down and I don't want them to go to waste, so I'm sharing here instead.
This is my "30,000 foot view" on love. There are SO MANY more details I could add but it would basically be a book, not a blog post, so this is what you get for right now. Feel free to comment with questions or your own reasons why YOU believe in love!
Here's my reason:
I believe in love because my journey to understanding and accepting true love hasn’t been easy, but once I got there, Love set me free and changed my life forever.
There are a thousand different messages about love in the world today. Some are based in truth. Some are lies. Some are self-focused. Some are others-focused. I’ve heard and subscribed to just about all of these messages at some point in my life.
There are also a thousand different ways to love others. There’s the love between a parent and child, between spouses or partners, between grandparents and grandchildren, between cousins, between aunts and uncles and nieces and nephews, between friends, and between the Creator and the people He created.
This last one is the most significant to me. It is why I capitalized the word “Love” in the title of this post. I John 4:8 says “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Without God, true love doesn’t exist. Without the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross, which He did out of love, and my acceptance of that act of love, I would not be free today.
It is experiencing the love between God and I that has had the most profound impact on my life. I searched for almost three decades for the versions of love being modeled by everyone around me thinking those would satisfy me and sometimes, they did. For the moment. But it always seemed to end in pain, sadness, loneliness, disappointment, abandonment, or anger.
At the end of this journey, I realized that my parents, my partners, even my child couldn’t be Love for me in the way that God can. I believe in love because I have had it all and nothing was as overwhelming, relentless, passionate, consistent, perfect, and intentional as God’s love.
And that's the way it's supposed to be. Human relationships are great and valuable. It is because of Christ's love that we can love others well. But they were never meant to replace a relationship with our Creator.
He loves me in the simplest ways by sending me an unexpected, beautiful bouquet of flowers during a financially difficult time when I wanted so badly to get them from the store but chose not to out of adherence to my budget. He loves me by being patient with me, by not shaking His finger at me when I choose unwisely, by softly reminding me that I belong to Him always, and by gently drawing my heart to His.
His love knocks me off my feet and brings me to tears. His love makes me laugh and dance and sing (always completely off key but I know He still appreciates it). His love is incomparable, unmatched, unconditional, and life-changing. I will never, ever be the same. I believe in Love because Love set me free.